We are often told that distance makes the heart grow fonder. That time and space between two people who are inlove is supposed to make them miss eachother and value one another’s presence even more. However, that’s not always the case. Sometimes, distance makes the heart grow distant and cold too.
In this article, let’s talk about how two people who are so much in love could end up in rough roads when you put distance in between them. Maybe not everyone, I don’t mean to generalize, but 70% of the lovely couples I’ve known did not end up together after going through LDR “Long Distance Relationship”.
Why the Heart Grows Cold With Distance
•Distance Makes You Forget
Waking up day by day without your love one’s hugs, kisses, touch. How cruel can that be? That’s the reason why people hate LDR, you will not feel eachother’s physical presence. And before you realize, if you put too much distance for a very long time, you will forget how eachother feels like. Touch is one way to communicate. Even without talking, you can feel loved through gestures and body language. But when you are apart from your lover, your mind and heart will little by little get used to the feeling of not being touched, until eventually, you might forget how it feels like.
•Distance Makes Your Heart Long for Someone to Be There- Sometimes, Desperately
This could happen especially if you are apart because of studies or work. It is very likely that every now and then, you will be facing hurdles and challenges. You will become stressed but no one will be there to comfort you. Until you realize you are looking for it in other places. In other people who are there. I’m not saying that’s excuse enough for you to look for someone who’s near. What I’m saying is that sometimes, it’s unavoidable especially if you are someone clingy, someone vulnerable.
Distance is not for the frail hearted ones. If you think you are someone who can be swayed easily, know that things might not end too well for you and your lover.
•Distance Could be an Excuse Not to Patch Up Small Fights
Yes, of course. Now that you are apart, no one can nag for you to make up as soon as possible. You can have time to be alone all you want. You can avoid patching up your fights as long as you can, it’s gonna be all up to you. But don’t you ever forget that the longer it takes for a small fight to get fixed, the more it’ll damage the relationship between you and your lover. He/she will feel that she’s powerless over that fight and you staying away for too long will only make things worse. So think things over.
•Distance Could Be a Reason For “Out of Sight, Out of Mind”
We can’t deny that human as we are, we have flaws and limitations too. Sometimes, no matter how we love someone, if we are away from them for too long, if we don’t see them often, we tend to think of them lesser by lesser each day too. That’s the reason why say out of sight, out of mind.
Factors contributing to Failure of Long Distance Relationships
•Time and Schedules
Since the world has different time zones, it’s very likely that you will be eating your breakfast in your lover’s dinner time. You will be having a good night sleep during his daytime. That is very important to manage for you to both make sure it’s gonna work out.
We can’t deny that even if we are in a relationship, we can’t stop other people’s emotions and feelings towards us or to that person we love. What’s important is that we know how to avoid for us not to be swayed.
Enough internat data, time to catch up with eachother, time to listen and establish strong communication between you and your partner- these could greatly affect your communication. Once communication fails, don’t expect your relationship to stand still.
Towards new people around them, towards those that are there when we’re not. We might pick fights, want them to avoid certain someone. These things would only show the weakness between you two. Work on it.
Long distance relationship is one of the very challenging phase to encounter in a relationship. Yes, some are strong enough to go through it and stand for the love in between the distance. But, there are also some who won’t be able to turn away from the negative impact caused by long distance between the couple. Above all, I believe that it is all under control, it can all be fixed and decided once you set your heart and mind to firmly stand up for your love. So if you have a partner from miles away, pray for your relationship and do your best to not let the distance make your hearts distant.