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How Loving Myself More Made Me a Better Mommy

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I once read that when you are a mom, you are the light of the family. You are the first source of love for your husband and your children. So let me ask you, do you think you can give yourself the same amount of love you give to your family?

The answer to that is definitely yes! And mind you, the more you love yourself, the more you become better not just in being a wife, being a mom, but being the super woman that you are! This is actually based on some mother’s journey of becoming the best version of themselves through loving themselves more than ever.

How I Changed My Mommy Life After I Loved Myself More

I will now be enumerating how and what I did so I can take care and give more importance to myself more than ever.

•Know That You Matter

Before you had your kids, before you had your husband, your world revolves around your own self. The only life that gives you life is yours. And just because you started building your own family doesn’t mean your no longer part of your priorities. Hey, you’re still you. And besides, a home won’t be complete without its light. You are the light so do your best to shine brightly. You are as important as everyone else in the family so appreciate yourself more and know that you matter.

•Discover Your Passion

When you do something that you really love,you will start feeling so good. Not only that you can monetize that, but you can also use that as your stress reliever. As for me, it took a while before I made up my mind about pursuing my passion in writing and start blogging. The first time i did a blog post and realized that other mommies all over the world are reading my blog, It felt surreal! I was so happy that I finally found what could truly stir my blood and soul. Then I started loving myself more. Little by little, I was showing to my kids the “mommy” that I am inside my blogs. I started living through it. Love came overflowing not just for me but for the entire family.

•Look Good, Feel Good

Before I decided on this one, I was a stay at home mother for more than 4 years. I looked ugly, and I think I looked pitiful those times. Not only that I don’t have enough budget for skin care and all, but I was thinking it won’t be good if I spend my husband’s money only to make me feel and look good when I’m not helping the family financially. But after taking a lift and started monetizing my blogging, It occured to me how much different it is to have your own income and start taking care of your wants and needs to take care of your looks too. When I started looking a lot better, I can feel that my eldest son, who is almost 5 yrs old now, felt happy and proud of that I did. For the firat time, he told me I am so beautiful.

After that, I can slowly point out how everything flowed so well for me and my journey in motherhood.

•There’s No Way that You Are Perfect, so Don’t Pressure Yourself too Much Over Things

Being a human, wa are bound to commit mistakes. Know that you are not a perfect mommy so give yourself a chance to do better next time. Love yourself in every stage of motherhood. When you understand that, you will become much more patient for yourself and for everyone around you. Try to keep your cool.

The moment you understand, acknowledge and appreciate yourself, you will start loving yourself more. By doing that, you also give yourself the chance to do better in being a wife and a mother, and of course, being a person who shed light among others and shine even more brighter for yourself.

How to Know if You Have Postpartum Depression

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After giving birth, we picture ourselves happily going home together with our little baby. We are expected to know what to do and how to handle this new little life that is now dependent to us while we heal from all the pain and changes brought to us by giving birth. However, that is not always how it is. Studies shows that 1 in every 7 women experience postpartum depression in the year they gave birth. The intensity of the depression may vary from mild to severe symptoms though.

Types of Postpartum Depression

•Baby Blues

Baby blues may be experienced few days after giving birth. Symptoms include mood swings, irritability, feeling overwhelmed, crying, less appetite, trouble in sleeping, anxiety, sadness for no particular reason and feeling tired even when you just woke up.

•Postpartum Depression

Postpartum depression is more intense than baby blues. The symptoms may be the same but it is stronger and may last longer. It may even hinder your capabilities to handle daily tasks, even taking care of your own baby. Symptoms may include intense sadness, excessive crying, loss of appetite and having insomnia, inability to connect with your child, feeling withdrawn from family and friends, severe anxiety and panic attacks, feeling guilty and unworthy as a mother, feeling like you can’t handle being a mother, helplessness, and sometimes thoughts of harming yourself and your baby.

•Postpartum Psychosis

Postpartum Psychosis is a rare condition that develops to mothers few weeks after giving birth. Its symptoms are severe and threatening to both the lives of baby and mommy. Symptoms may include paranoia, sleep disturbances, severe agitation, excessive anger, hallucinations and delusions, disorientations, confusions, excessive and obsessive thoughts about your baby, and attempts to harm yourself and your baby. This case requires immediate treatment from experts. Only a very few mother and baby were able to get through it successfully.

When to See a Doctor or When to Seek Help

In today’s society, we are given the picture that motherhood is a very wonderful thing. Don’t get me wrong, it surely is. But not all mothers are feeling that way especially with those that are experiencing symptoms of Postpartum Depression. When you feel sad about your new life being a mom, when you think you are too overwhelmed by it and it is affecting your emotions and mental health, talk to someone you trust, talk to a friend or a family, or your husband about how you feel so your emotions can be heard too.

If it takes too long before the symptoms disappear, if it is already affecting your ability to take good care of yourself and your baby, if the symptoms are getting worse, if thoughts about harming yourself and your baby is already there, seek for a professional help. Save yourself and your baby from the monster that there is in Postpartum Depression and Postpartum Psychosis. You and your baby deserves to see this world in a much beautiful way and experience the true happiness in this life that no amount of depression could ever take away.

How You Can Save While Raising a Child?

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Married, single, dating, mother, daughter, nanny or even a company’s president, no matter who you are in this world, saving money is always on the list of our priorities especially if we have already settled down and raising our own family. However, raising kids can be very costly. They say by the time your child reaches 2 years old, most average living parents have already spent more than $19,000 since birth. So, the question here is how are you going to save up or maximize your saving while you are raising your child? Here are some helpful tips.

Saving Tips for Mommies and Daddies

•Cook for the family.

Instead of dining out to your fave resto every friday or every weekend, cook and eat at home. Who says you won’t be happy with that? As long as you are together with the ones you love, you can find ways to be happy and healthy. Save dinner outs for special occasions.

•Don’t replace stuffs that are still good and working.

Even if your refrigerator is not brand new, as long as it is still up and running well, you don’t really need to buy new one. Keeping up with trend is costly. If your budget is just right, better save it up instead of buying things you don’t really need at the moment.

•Go for preloved and secondhand stuffs

Buying baby’s car seat or high chair? Look for preloved stuffs online. Trust me, there are still really good deals you can find there. Everything doesn’t have to be new, especially things that will be seasonal such as those. Your baby won’t use them for 10 years by the way, so as long as it’s in good condition, then you’re good to go!

•Simple Home is okay, people inside matters the most

Let’s admit it, mortgage and housing can really, really be costly. But if you are on a tight budget and aims to save more than to spend, go for a simple one. As long as there is roof above you and your family, walls to keep you warm and secured, you can fill the inside with love and care. Truly, a peaceful and happy home is more important than an expensive house with parents worried about loans, savings and expenses.

•Relationships aren’t costly. Build a strong one

Instead of going out every weekend to bond with the family, stay at home and do fun stuffs together. Learn what your kids love and explore with them. Bonding and going out is sure fun too, but it doesn’t have to be in a regular spending manner especially if you loom forward on saving for the kid’s future too. Spending time with kids no matter how simple (as long as it’s fun) your activities are will surely be appreciated.

•Teach your children to save and value money as early as 3 years old

The more they will see how much important it is to save, they will learn it by heart too. Also, be an example in showing your kids how to be a smart spender and good saver. Refer to this article for guide on teaching your kids how to save money.

Preparing for our kid’s future and saving up for the family is very important especially if you are really not that well off. You can always look for ways to spend and bond with the family without spending too much. Trust me, in the future, you will see that your kids will be thankful for you.

How to Handle a Picky Eater Child

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As a mother, it is always our joy to see our kids growing healthy. It is always on our goal to let our kids try different foods that contains the right nutritions they are expected to get everyday. But how could you achieve that if your child is a picky eater? How can you encourage him to change his eating habits so that each meal time will no longer be a horror for both mommy and her kid? In this article, lets find out how we can handle a child who is a picky eater.

When and Where Eating Happens

Establish a routine in eating and a permanent place to share your food. Your child should be able to eat 3 proper meals a a snacks in between. It is our role as a guardian to decide what food we should offer to our child, and it is our child’s decision already to take it or not. However here are some tips to help your child to be interested in trying different foods.

Tips to Help a Picky Eater Child

•Offer an Appealing Menu to Try On. Entice his or her curiousity by offering a meal that looks, smells and tastes yummy.

•Happy Meal Time. Do not pressure your child to eat what is on the table. The more pressured he is, the more he’ll set in his mid that he doesn’t like to eat what’s there. Make meal time a happy family time.

•Be an example. When the toddler seas that other members of family are eating what is on the table without asking for what’s not there, it will encourage him to try it too.

•Don’t bargain. Whatever is served should be consumed. Don’t serve his favorite food because he said he wants it. Don’t give in to his wants.

•He will eat when he’s hungry. At start, you may not like it when your kid only eats a little, and you just let that be. Experts says the child will more likely to eat more the next meal to make up from the last mealtime. Once he’s hungry, he will ask for food.

•Let him take Vitamins that might improve his appetite and eating habits. Ask your pedia about it so that you will have proper reccomendations on what to give your child too.

•Don’t easily quit the established routine. If you see only a little improvement, don’t quit right away or withdraw your plans. Be patient and try and try again.

Being a picky eater is not a behaviour that lasts for a lifetime. Eventually, it will improve through time, patience and dedication of parents to help their kids through it. As long as you don’t give up, there’s still hope. Just do your best to provide a healthy meal each time. Even if you fail, remind yourself that things will get better.

How to Give Your Kids a Happy Childhood

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As adults, looking back at our childhood days and telling stories to our kids about our experiences during childhood is such a wonderful time. We would always wish that our kids would be able to experience a fun-filled and happy childhood where all the scratches on our kneed can be cured by candies and the only problem we have is how to convince our Mommies to let us skip afternoon naps. As parents, we wish our children will have a wonderful childhood too, more than just playing on the gadgets and watching tvs. But how do we really help our kids yo make these wonderful memories of childhood days? Let’s discuss that here in this article.

How to Help Your Child to have a Happy Childhood

•Spend time to bond with them. No matter how busy you are, don’t forget to bond with your kids. They will remember each game well played. Each happy moments you have decided to share with them instead of working for your own happiness will be appreciated.

•Support your kids in their dreams. When they are still little and yet they are already sure of what they like to be in the future, show respect and support them. Parent’s support and encouragements will always mean so much to a child. More likely, he will remember that as a good memory when he grows up and chase his dreams.

•Teaching Valuable lessons. As early as 3 years old, when you teach your child an important life lesson or value, live through it. Show to him that when he learns to maintain the goodness and kindness inside his heart, he will become someone who will be source of happiness and values to others too.

•Be an example. Don’t overreact, overthink about problems, don’t stress yourself too much over work, be a living example of someone who brings positivity. Filling his childhood with positivity and happy memories to cherish.

•Teach your child to become optimistic. Even if he just had a hard and tiring day, teach him to remain patient and positive towards reaching a goal. Being enthusiastic in given situations is one way to keep happiness just around you.

•Developing Gratitude. The feeling of being thankful and appreciative no matter what situation you are into and on every simple or little things is one way to be happy.

•Acknowledge you child’s emotions. A child who’s emotions are well discussed, and who’s moods are managed will become an adult who knows how to control his emotions. He will know how to divert and manage his feelings.

Childhood is a very important part of someone’s life. Some people tends to develop their personalities and behavious from childhood stage. It is important to give our children a happy, optimistic and positive childhood days that he gets to cherish for the rest of his life.