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Why Its Okay to Sometimes Let Your Child Fail

November 18, 2020 By Karen Leave a Comment

In today’s generation, kids are always cradled in their parent’s safe and loving arms. Oftentimes, it is overly done that we instill to the child’s mind that everything should be perfect, that there should be room for failure so they would succeed in their endeavors in life. In this article, I would like to remind my co-parents why it is needed for us to sometimes let our kids fail and get hurt, why we should not hinder these things to be experienced by our little ones. What good can there be? Stay with me and read on!

Why Its Okay To Let Our Kids Fail and Get Hurt

•Failure is an Opportunity

While its true that it could be make us parents feel worried on how failure could affect our children’s feelings and self-esteem, let’s not forget that failure could be an opportunity for our child to look at himself, evaluate what he could have done better and learn from the experience. As parents, more than being devastated over our child’s failure, it is our responsibility to remind our kids of the lessons they should pay attention after failing over something. Let us encourage them to do it again instead of staying disappointed. Cheer them up and encourage them!

•There’s Always Lessons in Failure

Failure could be hurtful in a sense that it could affect our kids emotionally and it might affect their confidence and self-esteem too. But, there are so much lessons in failure that sometimes, losing over something could teach us the biggest lessons in life.

Example, your child was playing with his friends afterschool. They have a new classmate who wants to join their team but they refused because they’re not sure if he’d be a help or a burden for them. In the end, their new classmate played in the opponent’s team and played so well that your child’s team lost instead. So, this failure from winning the game made them realize that they should not be too quick to judge just because that kid is new.

•A Failure Could Make Your Child Strive to Do Better

Of course, it is normal to feel sad and disappointed over failures. Who loves being the one at the losing end? No one! So, if you let your child experience failure, they will know the negative effects of it. It will become their motivation to strive and do more good the next time. It can make them think of different strategies to try on, it can point out where they failed at, and so they will know how to do better the next time. They will change what they need to change, try again and do better.

•Failures are Beautiful Scars

All the lessons they learned from failing, all the tears they cried because of being hurt, all the negativity it caused, all of these will soon become a memory, but these memory will let them realize the best things in life. Example, your child failed in a math quiz because she kept talking to her seatmates during discussion. After it, her seatmates got big scores but she failed. It could be painful for her, but it will make her realize that the friendship they made is beautiful, but it can’t help and save her during quizzes so she will learn that discussion time should be no time for chitchats.

Failure is sometimes interpreted as life’s downside. If we keep on instilling to our kids that failure should be avoided all the time, they will never see the beauty there is behind every failure. They will just dodge it whenever it comes along their way, they will become too weak to understand how life really works. They will become too afraid to gamble in life. And when they are old enough to realize that, it will be too late already, so many chances, and beautiful opportunities of learning life’s lessons could have passed already.

So Momma, don’t be too afraid to let your child face failure because one day, he will thank you for that. He will grow and become matured, ready to face ordeals by himself.

Filed Under: Parenting, Young Kids

Do Strict Parents Raise Better Kids?

June 22, 2020 By Karen 1 Comment

When it comes to parenting styles, it is more important to look into the outcome rather than just considering what is convenient for you and your kids. Some say it is best to raise kids with discipline by being stict and rule-abiding rather than being in a calm and friendly manner. It was once said that in today’s generation, children are more stubborn and spoiled. So what can we do as parents to ensure that our growing kids will not turn into that path? Should we stick to being strict to produce well-mannered individuals for the future? Find out here.

Let us try to differentiate the outcomes of this 2 different parenting styles so we can decide which one should we consider in raising our kids.

Parents Who are Friendly and Easy Going

When parents stend to be permissive and friendly to their kids, the kids tend to think of you as nice and giving parent. Being friendly could be a good way to establish a good foundation to the relationship between a child and a parents. Your child could feel that they can be themselves in your presence and trusts you more because they feel secured with you. However, being too friendly and permissive to your child without limitations could affect him in a negative way too. There should always be a clear line drawn between parents and children to maintain healthy and harmonious relationship. By that, respect and love would be build in between parents and children.

Parents Who are Strict and Authoritative

This happens when children are raised through strict rules and enforcements of good behaviour through threats and punishments. I personally agree that those who has strict and authoritative parents are more likely to grow up knowing how to set limitations and grows more responsible since they are used into thinking about abiding the rules that were set for them. Although it has positive effect, using strict parenting without warmth is a dangerous thing too. It can affect a child psychologically. Too much of it may cause trauma to the growing kid and may cause him to become anti-social, defiant and aggressive towards his fellow children.

Correct parenting should really be up to parents on how they think they can handle their kids. For me, you don’t really have to choose sticking between being strict or being friendly. You can always draw the line in between too. Be friendly but set rules and limitations, be strict but know how to give warmth and show love to your kids too. Whatever works well for you, that will be the best parenting strategy for you in raising your child to become a better individual.

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How to Avoid Raising a Spoiled Child

June 17, 2020 By Karen Leave a Comment

In every generation, behaviors and attitudes of every individual could change. Let’s admit it, kid right now are more powerful than how we were during our times. They seem to show off attitude of entitlement and spoiled. It is even said that “Generation Alpha” or the children born of 21st Century are the most spoiled generation yet. Now, I’m not generalizing because there are still kids who are raised by their parents in traditional ways. The said behaviors and traits may have something to do with today’s technological advancement and social media influences.

In this article’s goal is to give guidance to parents as to how to raise children that are less spoiled and well-mannered.

Tips on Children with Good Manners and Right Conduct

•Don’t let them have everything they want. Of course, we would want our children to be happy. But being happy all the time and always getting what they want will develop into a problem when they grow up. They will not be able to handle disappointments and failures in life.

•Admitting and accepting their shortcomings. Children should be able to understand that they aren’t born into this world to be perfect individuals. Its okay not having perfect scores in exams, its okay not to know to ride bicycle, its ok not to be perfect and have flaws. They shouldn’t be pressured and they should feel that they are loved for what and who they are.

•Set rules and be consistent with it. A “No” right now should not be a “Yes” a minute later. When you set rules, be firm in implementing it. If you are inconsistent with your rules, your child will tend to look for ways in bending the rules and having their ways out of it.

•Teach and show to them the example of how to be thankful and grateful of whatever may come along. This will encourage more positivity in dealing matters and the children will have positive attitude towards others especially the elders. Start young, so it will be planted their roots.

•Don’t cover up for their mistakes. It might just be out of love from you, but it could have a negative impact to a growing and developing child. He will set in his mind that no matter what he does, you will be ready to pull him out from the shit hole. Make them understand that facing consequences when you do something wrong is a noble and right thing to do.

Raising kids could be very difficult thing to do especially for those who are first time parents. Also, we don’t have an overall control of our children’s mind and heart. As parents and adults, what we can do is guide them and be a role model. You should understand too that it is not just about growing a well-loved individual, but a responsible and well-mannered one.

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How You Can Save While Raising a Child?

June 11, 2020 By Karen Leave a Comment

Married, single, dating, mother, daughter, nanny or even a company’s president, no matter who you are in this world, saving money is always on the list of our priorities especially if we have already settled down and raising our own family. However, raising kids can be very costly. They say by the time your child reaches 2 years old, most average living parents have already spent more than $19,000 since birth. So, the question here is how are you going to save up or maximize your saving while you are raising your child? Here are some helpful tips.

Saving Tips for Mommies and Daddies

•Cook for the family.

Instead of dining out to your fave resto every friday or every weekend, cook and eat at home. Who says you won’t be happy with that? As long as you are together with the ones you love, you can find ways to be happy and healthy. Save dinner outs for special occasions.

•Don’t replace stuffs that are still good and working.

Even if your refrigerator is not brand new, as long as it is still up and running well, you don’t really need to buy new one. Keeping up with trend is costly. If your budget is just right, better save it up instead of buying things you don’t really need at the moment.

•Go for preloved and secondhand stuffs

Buying baby’s car seat or high chair? Look for preloved stuffs online. Trust me, there are still really good deals you can find there. Everything doesn’t have to be new, especially things that will be seasonal such as those. Your baby won’t use them for 10 years by the way, so as long as it’s in good condition, then you’re good to go!

•Simple Home is okay, people inside matters the most

Let’s admit it, mortgage and housing can really, really be costly. But if you are on a tight budget and aims to save more than to spend, go for a simple one. As long as there is roof above you and your family, walls to keep you warm and secured, you can fill the inside with love and care. Truly, a peaceful and happy home is more important than an expensive house with parents worried about loans, savings and expenses.

•Relationships aren’t costly. Build a strong one

Instead of going out every weekend to bond with the family, stay at home and do fun stuffs together. Learn what your kids love and explore with them. Bonding and going out is sure fun too, but it doesn’t have to be in a regular spending manner especially if you loom forward on saving for the kid’s future too. Spending time with kids no matter how simple (as long as it’s fun) your activities are will surely be appreciated.

•Teach your children to save and value money as early as 3 years old

The more they will see how much important it is to save, they will learn it by heart too. Also, be an example in showing your kids how to be a smart spender and good saver. Refer to this article for guide on teaching your kids how to save money.

Preparing for our kid’s future and saving up for the family is very important especially if you are really not that well off. You can always look for ways to spend and bond with the family without spending too much. Trust me, in the future, you will see that your kids will be thankful for you.

Filed Under: Growing Kids, Mommy Life, Parenting, Savings and Financials, Young Kids

What Causes Baby to Have Yellowish Skin?

June 9, 2020 By Karen Leave a Comment

Newborn babies are very prone to experience yellowing of skin and sometimes including their eyes too. This condition is called jaundice. Newborns and infants are very much prone to it. However, it can be cured and often gets better or completely disappears as the baby grows. In this article, let us discuss further about jaundice and what are its treatments too.

What is Jaundice?

Our body creates bilirubin to replace old red blood cells. Our liver helps in breaking down of bilirubin so it can be discharged. However, most newborns experience high levels of excess bilirubin which causes the yellowing of baby’s skin and the white part of the eyes. Symptoms of jaundice often occurs a few ours or even first few days after the child’s birth but it’s peak is 3 to 7 days after birth.

Babies who are not getting enough milk either breastfed or formula are at high risk of developing jaundice in newborns. This also includes those that are premature babies (36weeks and below), and those whose blood type is not compatible with their mothers.

How to Get Rid of Jaundice

For mild jaundice, it may take weeks before it completely disappears. Since the bilirubin can be eliminated from the body through the waste, the doctor may suggest to feed baby more frequently so that he will be able to urinate or poop more and discharge waste.

For moderate to severe jaundice, there are different types of treatment which can be done in the hospital by professionals. Of course, frequent feeding and supplimentation could still be applied along with other treatments that includes:

•Phototherapy or light therapy. Your baby (in bare skin with only diapers on) will be placed in a bed, under a special lamp that gives off light that changes the structure of bilirubin so it can easily be eliminated and discharged by the body through waste. Your baby would need to wear eye patch for protection too.

•Blood Transfusion. It can be done by getting small amount of blood from the baby’s body and replacing it with a compatible blood type from a donor. This could help in diluting the birilubin and lower its count in the baby’s body.

Seeing A Doctor

Few days from the delivery of the child, it is a must to have a baby’s follow up check up. The doctor will be able to tell if ever there your baby is having jaundice and of what level, including whatever treatment may be possible to get rid of it.

Having a newborn could get us a cloud-9 feeling, however, taking care of them is not an easy peasy thing to do. Every unusual thing we notice should be observed and brought to the attention of experts to make sure that things are well. But then, let’s not forget that this new life that was blessed to us is a very precious thing that we need to celebrate and give thank for.

Reference:

https://www.healthline.com/health/newborn-jaundice#symptoms

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/infant-jaundice/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20373870

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