Parenting

When it comes to parenting styles, it is more important to look into the outcome rather than just considering what is convenient for you and your kids. Some say it is best to raise kids with discipline by being stict and rule-abiding rather than being in a calm and friendly manner. It was once said that in today’s generation, children are more stubborn and spoiled. So what can we do as parents to ensure that our growing kids will not turn into that path? Should we stick to being strict to produce well-mannered individuals for the future? Find out here.

Let us try to differentiate the outcomes of this 2 different parenting styles so we can decide which one should we consider in raising our kids.

Parents Who are Friendly and Easy Going

When parents stend to be permissive and friendly to their kids, the kids tend to think of you as nice and giving parent. Being friendly could be a good way to establish a good foundation to the relationship between a child and a parents. Your child could feel that they can be themselves in your presence and trusts you more because they feel secured with you. However, being too friendly and permissive to your child without limitations could affect him in a negative way too. There should always be a clear line drawn between parents and children to maintain healthy and harmonious relationship. By that, respect and love would be build in between parents and children.

Parents Who are Strict and Authoritative

This happens when children are raised through strict rules and enforcements of good behaviour through threats and punishments. I personally agree that those who has strict and authoritative parents are more likely to grow up knowing how to set limitations and grows more responsible since they are used into thinking about abiding the rules that were set for them. Although it has positive effect, using strict parenting without warmth is a dangerous thing too. It can affect a child psychologically. Too much of it may cause trauma to the growing kid and may cause him to become anti-social, defiant and aggressive towards his fellow children.

Correct parenting should really be up to parents on how they think they can handle their kids. For me, you don’t really have to choose sticking between being strict or being friendly. You can always draw the line in between too. Be friendly but set rules and limitations, be strict but know how to give warmth and show love to your kids too. Whatever works well for you, that will be the best parenting strategy for you in raising your child to become a better individual.

In every generation, behaviors and attitudes of every individual could change. Let’s admit it, kid right now are more powerful than how we were during our times. They seem to show off attitude of entitlement and spoiled. It is even said that “Generation Alpha” or the children born of 21st Century are the most spoiled generation yet. Now, I’m not generalizing because there are still kids who are raised by their parents in traditional ways. The said behaviors and traits may have something to do with today’s technological advancement and social media influences.

In this article’s goal is to give guidance to parents as to how to raise children that are less spoiled and well-mannered.

Tips on Children with Good Manners and Right Conduct

•Don’t let them have everything they want. Of course, we would want our children to be happy. But being happy all the time and always getting what they want will develop into a problem when they grow up. They will not be able to handle disappointments and failures in life.

•Admitting and accepting their shortcomings. Children should be able to understand that they aren’t born into this world to be perfect individuals. Its okay not having perfect scores in exams, its okay not to know to ride bicycle, its ok not to be perfect and have flaws. They shouldn’t be pressured and they should feel that they are loved for what and who they are.

•Set rules and be consistent with it. A “No” right now should not be a “Yes” a minute later. When you set rules, be firm in implementing it. If you are inconsistent with your rules, your child will tend to look for ways in bending the rules and having their ways out of it.

•Teach and show to them the example of how to be thankful and grateful of whatever may come along. This will encourage more positivity in dealing matters and the children will have positive attitude towards others especially the elders. Start young, so it will be planted their roots.

•Don’t cover up for their mistakes. It might just be out of love from you, but it could have a negative impact to a growing and developing child. He will set in his mind that no matter what he does, you will be ready to pull him out from the shit hole. Make them understand that facing consequences when you do something wrong is a noble and right thing to do.

Raising kids could be very difficult thing to do especially for those who are first time parents. Also, we don’t have an overall control of our children’s mind and heart. As parents and adults, what we can do is guide them and be a role model. You should understand too that it is not just about growing a well-loved individual, but a responsible and well-mannered one.