In today’s generation, kids are always cradled in their parent’s safe and loving arms. Oftentimes, it is overly done that we instill to the child’s mind that everything should be perfect, that there should be room for failure so they would succeed in their endeavors in life. In this article, I would like to remind my co-parents why it is needed for us to sometimes let our kids fail and get hurt, why we should not hinder these things to be experienced by our little ones. What good can there be? Stay with me and read on!
Why Its Okay To Let Our Kids Fail and Get Hurt
•Failure is an Opportunity
While its true that it could be make us parents feel worried on how failure could affect our children’s feelings and self-esteem, let’s not forget that failure could be an opportunity for our child to look at himself, evaluate what he could have done better and learn from the experience. As parents, more than being devastated over our child’s failure, it is our responsibility to remind our kids of the lessons they should pay attention after failing over something. Let us encourage them to do it again instead of staying disappointed. Cheer them up and encourage them!
•There’s Always Lessons in Failure
Failure could be hurtful in a sense that it could affect our kids emotionally and it might affect their confidence and self-esteem too. But, there are so much lessons in failure that sometimes, losing over something could teach us the biggest lessons in life.
Example, your child was playing with his friends afterschool. They have a new classmate who wants to join their team but they refused because they’re not sure if he’d be a help or a burden for them. In the end, their new classmate played in the opponent’s team and played so well that your child’s team lost instead. So, this failure from winning the game made them realize that they should not be too quick to judge just because that kid is new.
•A Failure Could Make Your Child Strive to Do Better
Of course, it is normal to feel sad and disappointed over failures. Who loves being the one at the losing end? No one! So, if you let your child experience failure, they will know the negative effects of it. It will become their motivation to strive and do more good the next time. It can make them think of different strategies to try on, it can point out where they failed at, and so they will know how to do better the next time. They will change what they need to change, try again and do better.
•Failures are Beautiful Scars
All the lessons they learned from failing, all the tears they cried because of being hurt, all the negativity it caused, all of these will soon become a memory, but these memory will let them realize the best things in life. Example, your child failed in a math quiz because she kept talking to her seatmates during discussion. After it, her seatmates got big scores but she failed. It could be painful for her, but it will make her realize that the friendship they made is beautiful, but it can’t help and save her during quizzes so she will learn that discussion time should be no time for chitchats.
Failure is sometimes interpreted as life’s downside. If we keep on instilling to our kids that failure should be avoided all the time, they will never see the beauty there is behind every failure. They will just dodge it whenever it comes along their way, they will become too weak to understand how life really works. They will become too afraid to gamble in life. And when they are old enough to realize that, it will be too late already, so many chances, and beautiful opportunities of learning life’s lessons could have passed already.
So Momma, don’t be too afraid to let your child face failure because one day, he will thank you for that. He will grow and become matured, ready to face ordeals by himself.