When it comes to parenting styles, it is more important to look into the outcome rather than just considering what is convenient for you and your kids. Some say it is best to raise kids with discipline by being stict and rule-abiding rather than being in a calm and friendly manner. It was once said that in today’s generation, children are more stubborn and spoiled. So what can we do as parents to ensure that our growing kids will not turn into that path? Should we stick to being strict to produce well-mannered individuals for the future? Find out here.
Let us try to differentiate the outcomes of this 2 different parenting styles so we can decide which one should we consider in raising our kids.
Parents Who are Friendly and Easy Going
When parents stend to be permissive and friendly to their kids, the kids tend to think of you as nice and giving parent. Being friendly could be a good way to establish a good foundation to the relationship between a child and a parents. Your child could feel that they can be themselves in your presence and trusts you more because they feel secured with you. However, being too friendly and permissive to your child without limitations could affect him in a negative way too. There should always be a clear line drawn between parents and children to maintain healthy and harmonious relationship. By that, respect and love would be build in between parents and children.
Parents Who are Strict and Authoritative
This happens when children are raised through strict rules and enforcements of good behaviour through threats and punishments. I personally agree that those who has strict and authoritative parents are more likely to grow up knowing how to set limitations and grows more responsible since they are used into thinking about abiding the rules that were set for them. Although it has positive effect, using strict parenting without warmth is a dangerous thing too. It can affect a child psychologically. Too much of it may cause trauma to the growing kid and may cause him to become anti-social, defiant and aggressive towards his fellow children.
Correct parenting should really be up to parents on how they think they can handle their kids. For me, you don’t really have to choose sticking between being strict or being friendly. You can always draw the line in between too. Be friendly but set rules and limitations, be strict but know how to give warmth and show love to your kids too. Whatever works well for you, that will be the best parenting strategy for you in raising your child to become a better individual.